January 29th, 2003


How it Works (note to humans)

Okay, soon, there is going to be a day to day update of my life, and it is important that the human populous understands how it works.  There are five ways that a post can be posted and they are in order from most open to most secure:

Friend Only
Special Group Only
Public Hidden

Public means that the entire world can see the entire day.  There are no restrictions.
Friend Only means that everyone as defined by my friend's list would be able to see it only.
Special Group means that only a select few people in the special group would be able to see the post.
Public Hidden means that the world will see the post, but questionable information will be censored (it is stored locally for me so I know what happened that day).
Private means only God, JOHD, or Madd will know what happened that day.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO KEEP IN MIND IS THAT IF YOU ARE ON A LIST AND A POST IS DEFINED AS A PART OF THAT LIST, YOU SHARE NOT THE INFORMATION WITH ANYONE.  TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED ON A DAY TO OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT ON THE LIST IS A MASSIVE VIOLATION OF MY TRUST IN YOU AND THE FRIENDSHIP YOU CLAIM TO HAVE WITH MADD.  While I do not expect everyone to read this entire post of the examples, ANYONE WHO IS ON MY FRIEND'S LIST AND READS THIS SHOULD DEFINITELY READ THIS PART AND UNDERSTAND IT.  Those who have any confusion what I am talking about should post a comment, or speak to me in person.  I am not here to violate the trust of anyone.  I expect you people who I trusted to add to my friend's list to also respect others on this list.  If at any time I find out that ANY friend has violated my trust, or the trust of my other friends, YOU WILL BE REMOVED FROM THIS FRIENDS LIST.  If at any point in me knowing you, you do things to VIOLATE MY TRUST, you shall also be removed.  Furthermore, violating trust in this grounds could mean I stop associating with you in real life, whether it be in person, chat, etc.  If this statement has your attention, I MORE than encourage you to read on to understand how everything works.  Questions more than welcomed.

For this example, I am using the following variables:

Jack is a friend on my friend's list
Jill is a friend on my friend's list
Bob is a friend on my friend's list
Jane is a friend on my friend's list
John is a friend on my friend's list

Jack and Jill are in special friend group A
John and Jane are in special friend group B

The day is Maddate 010101.17 (Jan 1st, 2001, Monday, emotional level 7)

This is what happened that day:

-Jill called: wanted to stay over
-Jane called: wanted to stay over
-FFT (meaning playing Final Fantasy Tactics)
-Jill arrives: passionate kisses
-Jane arrives
-Jill and Jane make out on couch
-Jill and Jane: sex, Madd takes pictures
-slept: all in bed
-Jill leaves
-sex: Jane
-Jack calls: not liking Jill is a slut, propblems urinating, FFT stratagies, etc
-John calls: wishes Bob would die, cheese issues, wants Jill and Jane in threesome, general chat
-stupid callers wish would die are very stupid
-return pad
-Bob calls: drunk and had sex with 6 women at once, no condom

(Please note these humans do not exist, nor are any of the events meant to have really happened, this is merely an example)

JOHD is my close friend.  She has two purposes in my life.  Purpose one is to keep me informed of what I have been doing in my life, and what important events happen in a given day.  I talk to her more now through the use of work.  I write my day down while I am at work, and email the results back to me.  Afterwards, these evens are then translated so that I totally do not forget what things mean, as shown back when I put mcd and had no clue it was McD (McDonalds).

The second purpose of JOHD is to keep people informed as to what is going in on my life, how I have been feeling, and dealing with life.  If I am pissy with someone, they have the ability to communicate with JOHD.  That is the reason JOHD is on the web as opposed to kept secert locally on my computer.  When interacting with me directly, realize that whatever it is you are doing with me, you are giving sole permission to let me tell the rest of the world.  Don't kiss me if you don't want it public, don't have sex with me if you don't want it public, etc.  There are a few excptions to that specific rule.  Also note that there are times someone will TELL me something, about happening in their life.  This is different than interacting with me directly. In the example above, Jill and Jane have sex, and I am not directly involved. However, Jill kisses me and Jane has sex with me.  This is direct interaction.  There are times when things should not be brought to the entire world.  Jack has issues with Jill, and wants to talk to me about it.  He may not want Jill or anyone else to know what is said, and that is something I can respect, so, there are ways to get around having the whole world know but still feel safe to talk to me about it.

First off, anyone who reads JOHD, and knows they read JOHD, should attempt to INFORM Madd shortly after the event that information given is not information they want the world to know. Realize that posting on a livejournal account allows for friends only, and even a special list of people. So it works like this.

I may question if information should be shared with the world.  In the above case, each friend may not want the world to know, but would not care if a small group knew about it.  Bob may know someone on the planet who has an LJ account at the party he was at, and would not want that person by freak chance to find out about the 6 women, but would trust everyone on my friends list to know and would not care.  If Bob was the ONLY person who wanted a restriction, then the post would simply go to a friends only post.  Jack, Jill, John, Jane, and Bob would be the only ones to see it.

In the case of Jack, he may not want Jill to know how he feels about her, at least at this time.  He trusts John and Jane, and does not mind if they know what is going on.  He has THREE options.  Special Group, Public Hidden, and Private.  If he did Special Group, it would go to Special Group B, where John and jane are.  AS ALREADY STATED, IT WOULD BE IMPORTANT THAT JOHN AND JANE SHARE THIS DAY WITH NO ONE BUT JOHN, JANE, JOHN, AND MADD.  It would not matter if it was about the group sex, or me having sex with Jane or kissing Jill.  Even though Jack is just not wanting Jill to know how he feels about her, John and Jill are not allowed to talk about anything of this day to anyone minus those three people.

Jack could also choose Public Hidden.  Public Hidden would look like this in a post:

-Jill leaves
-sex: Jane
-Jack calls: {censored}
-John calls: wishes Bob would die, cheese issues, wants Jill and Jane in threesome, general chat

In this case, what Jack and I talked about is censored.  The rest of the world can know the information that happened, but only God, Jack, and Madd would know what really happened.

I would project that the most confusing part of this is understanding Public Hidden and Special Group.  Anything that is NOT public will have a disclaimer as the very first part of the chat if it is targetted to a group.  Such as:

"The following post is a FRIENDS ONLY post.  Do not share this information with anyone outside of comments to JOHD".  Keep in mind comments made in JOHD are still kept in the smaller group. 


"The following post is a SPECIAL GROUP post consisting of John and Jane.  Do not share this information with anyone outside of comments to JOHD."

THe whole reason I do this boils down to my belief in informing everyone what is happening in life.  Keep in mind, whatever I do in life I do with the thought that it could be known by the world.  The only time I keep things private is if someone else may not want the world to know about it.  So if I went to have sex with 7 women, I am doing so knowing that all people I am in contact will most likely find out that I had sex with these 7 women.  However, one of them may not want others to know who she is having sex with due to problems it could cause with someone else (a friend she knows but is not actually dating, for example).  I am not here to make people's lives difficult.  However, I am not here to forget everything I do, either, and I am not here to keep secerts to anyone I know, unless the secert is to someone else and not me.

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Please note that the post made on 1:37 PM has been added to the memories page for your convience.  It is under the keywords of FAQ and human, with the title "JOHD Posting and Humans"